Comments on: Redefining

By: Rhubarb

Rhubarb — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 23:09:09 +0000

I am impressed with your power and understanding at that age, to run. I wish I was armed with similar weaponary. At that age, I was still clueless - my upbringing was my 'normal', I didn't know there was an alternative, another way, something different. Families that socialised with my family all raised their children the same way, it was all I knew. You ability to see past that at such a young age is huge. Looking back, I saw the light at around 17. I still find it amazing that I was a young adult before I learned that I was, in fact, being raised in a minority. Rhubarb’s last blog post... Goals, Joy and Miscellanea

By: Victoria

Victoria — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 12:39:51 +0000

I can so totally relate to what you said and I wholeheartedly agree with Suzie, it's made you a much more understanding and empathetic adult as a result. I'm sure most people can relate to cringeworthy things in their past. I can. I hope you never feel ashamed of that because it's made you who you are today. I, too, was a good kid, but my parents so believed that I was bad that I went ahead and fufilled their belief. It may have been stupid, but it's what I did. I was young and immature. I hope you find a sense of relief in sharing and you'll begin to feel less alone. Victoria’s last blog post... The Good Doctor. Excuse Me While I Laugh For a Minute.

By: Stomper Girl

Stomper Girl — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 10:19:51 +0000

It is terrible when you think about it how much we assume it is our fault. It takes wisdom to step back and say that behaviour is about them, not me. Hope your heatwave is over, poor Adelaide. Stomper Girl’s last blog post... Spur of the Moment Beach Holiday

By: HeatherPride

HeatherPride — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:45:14 +0000

Heck, there are 50 moments of my childhood I wish I could go back and re-do. And I had a happy childhood. So don’t feel bad for doing what you had to do as a kid.

By: Suzie

Suzie — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 14:30:09 +0000

Im sorry you went through that. But you have come out stronger and more empathetic as a result Suzie’s last blog post... Not At All Wordless Friday

By: badness jones

badness jones — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 12:42:15 +0000

Hugs hon. I think that a lot more people than you know have at least a few cringe-worthy memories buried behind their 'normal' childhood. My husband has blocked out most of his memories, he can barely recall any details of his childhood, and from what he has told me, it's likely better that way. Be proud of how far you've come, and how much better you're doing for your kids. badness jones’s last blog post... art lessons

By: katyboo1

katyboo1 — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 11:45:58 +0000

Good for you honey.xx

By: tinsenpup

tinsenpup — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 07:15:21 +0000

I could have written those first two paragraphs word for word myself. I said to my brother-in-law recently that I found it bizarre in the extreme that family members should expect me to feel ashamed of the things I had to do in order to survive the upbringing (or lack of it) that they gave me. I'm not. I'm just not and I won't pretend. tinsenpup’s last blog post... Far Horizons

By: Fe

Fe — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 04:23:53 +0000

Wow. You summed it up well. There are SO many people who had less than acceptable childhoods, and many of them carry self-blame with them into adulthood, which turns into self-loathing and self-destruction (amongst other things).

I’m so glad that you have the perspective to understand your 14 year old self.

And that you have us to listen to you.

((((((( Ali )))))))

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